it’s my party and i’ll cry if i want to.

4 03 2011

I’m in a beautiful house on the outskirts of Zion National Park.

My sister, Kourtney, is getting married in St. George this weekend.
Kournety manages the Zion Ponderosa Ranch – which thankfully allowed us to have access to some of the cabins here on the ranch.

Weddings are SO much more than a bride and groom getting married.

A bride and groom are basically party hosts trying to make sure their guests are happy.

You are planning the ultimate party.
Your guests are your friends, family and then those random people who seem to somehow get involved.

That is A LOT of pressure.

And the pressure gets to everyone at some point.

Oh the tears….

There are different levels of crying.
The tear up: This is usually what happens to me when I watch a touching movie.
The gentle trickle: This happens when a couple tears escape the eyes after a good tear up.
The soft sob: A steady flow of tears with some muffled sniffling.
The steady sob: Steady tears with no attempt to silence the sniffling.
The ugly cry: Gushing tears, lots of loud strange noises, a runny nose. Basically this occurs when crap hits the fan and you lose all inhibitions.

Weddings have a way of bringing out the ugly cry.

It is the most interesting dynamic.
There might be lots of varying levels of crying along the way – BUT when the day arrives, it’s as if none of that even happened and everyone laughs and has a great time.

Being out here for my sisters wedding reminds me of the emotional rollercoaster that a wedding takes you on.

You think it’s all over once you’re married.
But so far it seems like that little rollercoaster was the first of many.
And that marriage day filled with bliss and happiness is also just the first of many.

But in all the chaos of preparing and enjoying a wedding, it’s great to remember the real reason for all of the stress…

“And in order to obtain the highest, a man must enter into this border of the priesthood meaning the new and everlasting covenant of marriage.” (D&C 131:2)

? Was your wedding planning stressful or easy?

s’mores bar.

19 09 2010

We had our Utah wedding reception last night.
It was just beautiful!

My Aunt Valerie let us use her backyard (thanks so much!) and she helped pull everything together so that it looked incredible.

We decided to do a smore’s bar (well, Leah and Val came up with it – but I’ll include myself in that ‘we’). We had fire pits set up throughout the backyard and tikki torches lighting everything up.

We had ALL kinds of different things you could put on your s’mores! I’ve never seen so many different variations!

LOVED it. Just loved it.
I also loved the temperature. I didn’t break a sweat once.
At our reception in Arizona the sweat had made it’s way through all of my layers of clothing and through my suit coat. SO hot!

I love getting together with family and friends, it doesn’t matter what the occasion is! It was a nice little party that I’m glad we did.

I even got to see some families from Texas that I have not seen in years!

I love reunions.
Last night felt like a reunion.

I wonder if that is the same feeling you will have when you die and cross over to meet up with family and friends who have already passed away.

It makes me think of when Alma met back up with his friends (the sons of Mosiah) and they had this wonderful reunion.

“Alma did rejoice exceedingly to see his brethren; and what added more to his joy, they were still his brethren in the Lord…” (Alma 17:2)

? What do you like to put on your s’mores?

the ring.

15 09 2010

I’ve never really been a ring kind of guy. In fact I’m not much for jewelry in general.
I never wore rings growing up and wasn’t looking forward to permanently attaching one to my hand.

I even told Leah that wearing a wedding ring was not the most appealing idea.

Don’t get me wrong – I love everything the ring stands for.
A symbol of love, covenants, eternity. I want everyone to know I’m married. I’m proud and excited.

“Marriage is honourable in all…” (Hebrews 13:4)

BUT- rings are just uncomfortable.

In fact I was so (anti)ring that it was the only thing I was dreading about the wedding.

Then Leah put the ring on my finger and everything changed…

I LOVE the ring.
I love everything about it.
It turns out I am a ring guy – I just needed the right ring.

Now, I just need to remember to put it back on after I shower.

I feel like wearing a ring means you belong to someone….
AND I’m all for that.
I love walking around with a ring that basically says ‘property of Leah‘.

? What does your wedding ring mean to you?


27 07 2010

Ok – so we got more of our engagement pictures in!

Decisions decisions, decisions…

“And every decision made … must be by the unanimous voice of the same…” (D&C 107:27)

We don’t need a unanimous voice to decide on a picture here (it’s the only scripture that seemed to work at the moment)

I’d love to know everyone’s opinion if there is one that really pops out to them!

My vote is with the breakdancing one (at least to be sent out to the people on my side). It’s a unique picture that I feel captures my personality!

Here’s our top 5:

? Which ones should we use?

wedding. wedding. wedding.

17 07 2010

What a crazy 24 hours.

2 weddings and a bridal show!

I feel engrossed in ALL things wedding at the moment!

Honestly – I’m happy for my two friends who got married.

BUT – I’m also jealous, envious, covetous etc.etc. that they got married.
Carrie & Jason planned their wedding in 5 weeks.
Mary & Taylor planned their wedding in 7 weeks.

I’m not getting married for another 7 weeks.
We’ve been planning for almost 4 weeks already.

The average wedding planning time out here is about 6 weeks.
I’m not even to the average yet.

Good grief.

Ok – I’m done ranting.

The bridal show was held at a place called La Caille.
Holy crap. It was ridiculously beautiful. It’s a place that comes straight out of a fairy tale.

Beautiful cottages built among the trees – forest animals just milling about – wild flowers everywhere!

Apparently somebody was telling us that meals are ridiculously expensive. I’m not surprised. Check this place out :

Leah had to help out with the Avenia booth (she works at a bridal store in Orem called Avenia). So I had the opportunity to look around and check out some of the other vendors booths.

Everywhere I went I couldn’t stop evaluating the quality of the representatives at the booth…
I think it’s because I’m in the middle of a book about customer service called: Exceptional Service, Exceptional Profit.
(yes, I’m reading multiple books at the same time – I couldn’t help it, I wanted to start it!)

The book has me looking everywhere for good and bad examples of customer service.

I saw a lot of bad examples at the show.
Maybe it’s just the nature of the beast. I don’t know.
Maybe it’s because we got there in the afternoon and it was ridiculously hot.
Or, maybe the reps just sucked at making me feel like they actually wanted to talk with me.
We’ll never know.

I see customer service opportunities EVERYWHERE. It’s really funny.
The good thing is that I see them in my job at Blickenstaff’s and this past week I made an intense effort to really anticipate the needs of everyone in the store and help them feel like we were friends.

Good customer service is basically just good service.
And good service makes its way back to the top…

“…that ye may learn that when ye are in the bservice of your cfellow beings ye are only in the service of your God.” (Mosiah 2:17)

? What’s the worst example of customer service you’ve ever experienced?


7 07 2010

Leah told me last night that we are now at 59 days till we get married. I guess that means today we are at 58.

I politely reminded her that I’d rather not be reminded of the number of days till we get married until we are in the single digits.

To me, 58, 78, 49, 84, 92 – they are all the same.
They all feel like FOREVER.

I prefer the single digit countdown. It feels more doable.

58 days till we get married.
I’m just not going to think about that.

Too bad it’s hard not to.

I feel like a kid looking forward to:
The weekend
The end of the school day. (It might as well be 2:50 and I’m just staring at the second hand slowly trace circles that seem to have no affect on the minute hand)

Somehow you just have to distract yourself and stay busy so that time seems to go by faster.

“…all is as one day with God, and time only is measured unto men.” (Alma 40:8)

Ugh. Time.
I need to stop measuring time.

? What do you do to help time “move faster” as you look forward to something?


29 06 2010

It seems like every time I go into Target there is some sappy couple registering for a toaster.

Today I was one half of that sappy couple. (and yes we registered for a toaster)

There is a lot to think about when registering for gifts.

Can I register for a plasma tv?
According to, “Your wedding is one of the few opportunities you’ll have for receiving elaborate presents. Sign up for high-quality gifts the two of you will love and use for the long haul.

We didn’t. But there were definitely a couple items on our registry I thought were higher priced (of course I think anything over $100 is up there- haha).

I loved being the sappy couple walking around with the laser bar code gun talking excitedly about how we definitely needed a George Foreman Grill (I grew to love the Foreman while living in the Slate Canyon house with the guys).

It was surreal to think that the items were for US.
I loved it.

My buddy Mike was saying how he thought it would be great to be able to register at Wells Fargo!

You start an account and have people just deposit whatever they want into it. My mind is racing with all the fun things we could pay for with that money like:
car payment.

Yeah… I guess if I just got money I would probably be TOO frugal and not want to buy some of the fun things we could possibly get as gifts.

Guess it’s a good thing we just went scan crazy in that place! Haha

I’d still like to see some gift cards trickle in though…

I’m trying to think of the equivalent of a registry back in Jerusalem or Nephite times, but nothing comes to my mind.

The description of weddings typically looks like this;

“And Abram took Sarai his wife…” (Genesis 12:5)

It seems that times have changed a touch. If customs were the same, Leah and I might already be married – no hoopla.

Hhmmm, I like it.

? To my married friends, PLEASE tell me what you would recommend registering for now that you have the privilege of retrospect?

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