decade of decision.

24 10 2010

At Stake Priesthood meeting tonight we were reminded of a talk given by Elder Hales entitled: “Preparing for the Decade of Decision“.

Elder Hales describes a series of incredibly important decisions that will be made.
All of these life-altering decisions will be made in a very busy, relatively short period during your 20s—during what I call the “Decade of Decision,” Hales said.

I started thinking about all of the decisions I’ve made during the past 10 years of my life.

Church. (It’s true- I just need to figure out the whole obedience thing)
College. (BYU – also decided 5 years would be more fun than 4)
Mission. (England, Birmingham 2003-2005)
Major. (Public Relations)
Career. (Blickenstaff’s Toy & Candy)
Marriage. (Leah my beautiful wife)

Yep, there they are – 6 HUGE decisions.
But now that they’re made what do I do?

I sat there in the meeting tonight wondering what comes after the “decade of decision”?

I feel like you are taught, groomed, trained and advised on how to make wise choices during your “decade of decision”
“O, remember, my son, and learn wisdom in thy youth…” (Alma 37:35)

BUT – everyone failed to mention what comes next.

“Decade of decision” sounds so exciting and life changing.

I’ve been brainstorming names for my current point in life:
“decade of revision” (a chance to fix any mistakes I made)
“decade of submission” (a time to submit to the consequences of the past decade)
“decade of “provision” (a time to become a provider)

Hhmm… yeah nothing stands out.

? What comes after the “decade of decision”?

ticking clock.

17 10 2010

Our second speaker in church today said something I’ve been thinking about all day;

“We’ve got all of these things to help us do things faster – but we still feel like there is not enough time in the day…”

He mentioned a few things like dish washers, laundry machines, cars, etc. etc. Each of these items helps us accomplish a task much faster than our pioneer ancestors.
Yet, at the end of the day I still often feel like I didn’t have enough time to accomplish all of the things I wanted to do.

How is that even possible?

Do we get more done than the pioneers did in a day?

But then again, they typically worked from sunrise to sunset.

Yeah – I’ll say we get more done in a day than they do.
Maybe my grandkids will be even more productive…
Hard to believe – but most likely true.

I like thinking about this:

“one day is with the Lord as a thousand years…” (2 Peter 3:8)

Imagine if one day was a thousand years. I could get SO much done. It would be ridiculous.
Several years ago I did a blog post about what I would do if I could live to 800.
I’m reposting the list and making a few changed…

*Live on EVERY continent. (Yes, including Antarctica)
*Learn roughly 20 languages (one of those must be the clicking language down in Africa)
I figure with 20 languages you can safely navigate most of the world.
*Start a successful company (I’ll sell it off for around 8 figures before moving on)
*Learn about 6 culinary dishes from MOST cultures worldwide so I can hold spectacular dinner parties.
*Learn every bboy move possible (and create some of my own)
*Win the Red Bull BC One!
*Own my own dance studio that gives completely FREE lessons to the kids who can’t afford the normal studios. (Mine will be better anyways!)
*Win a PGA tour
*Learn to fly
*Live in the Amazon for awhile
*Have sex 283,300 times (thanks for doing the math on that Ashley)
*Visit every temple (both LDS and non-LDS)
*Learn to play the piano so well I get invited to play at Carnegie Hall, NYC
*Become a professional photographer
*Write several books (I actually am hoping to do this within this lifetime)
*Win a gold medal in the Olympics (I’m not too fussed about which sport it’s in)
*Have my own clothing line
*Take a trip around the world in a hot air balloon
*Go to the moon to moonwalk
*Build little neighborhoods in several areas of need around the world
*Form a non-profit that helps kids in need get an education so that they can succeed and in turn help other kids
*Have a very large family
*Create the craziest zoo, EVER
*Have a pet tiger (at least until he tries to kill me)
*Star in a Bollywood movie (how could you not want to be in a movie where everyone spontaneously starts dancing)
*Be President of the United States (this was the ONLY thing I wanted to be my entire youth)
*Get back into playing the french horn and play with the New York Philharmonic
*Conduct an orchestra (after developing “perfect pitch”)
*Star in a TV show (preferably a comedy)
*Become so rich that I can end hunger in several countries for a couple centuries
*Become professionally capable in EVERY major dance form (including ballet)\
*Read over 10,000 books
*Become the ultimate conversationalist

*Spend the ENTIRE 800 years developing meaningful and lasting friendhsips/relationships (out of all of the endless possibilities of things to do, this is the MOST important)

Thinking about all of the things I want to do and then remembering my life is SO short is a sobering thought.

Am I using the time I have been given to the fullest?

? What would you do if you could to be 800?

a new season.

26 09 2010

Yes, Fall is rapidly approaching – but that’s not what I’m referring to.
The new seasons of all of our favorite shows are back!

I rarely watch TV shows…. on TV during their allocated time – and we are too poor for DVR/TiVo.

This leaves me 2 options: illegal downloading or Hulu!
Thank-you Hulu for allowing my wife and I to enjoy all the new episodes of our favorite shows while we ate dinner last night and breakfast this morning.

Here’s our top shows at the moment… in a very particular order!

1. Modern Family
2. Community
3. How I Met Your Mother
4. The Office
5. Glee (Glee is number 5 because I have yet to see it still – so it’s bottom tier)

Leah and I noticed something interesting as we watched Modern Family, an ABC show.
In case you haven’t seen Modern Family I’ll give you a readers digest version of the show.

It’s a show about 3 families (all related) and all of the quirky situations that come along with a family in today’s world. (Yeah, I know, it’s a very brief synopsis – go watch the show if you want more)

The brother/son is gay and lives with his boyfriend and their adopted Vietnamese baby. In season 1 they never show the gay couple being affectionate. Not once. It was something we all noticed in season and found interesting.

First episode of season 2 they show the brother (Mitchell) kiss his boyfriends head and briefly hold hands.

Leah and I were talking about how it seems like they’re trying to ease us into gay PDA. (public display of affection)

As I thought about it, it reminded me of this scripture:

“And it came to pass that Amalickiah caused that one of his servants should administer poison by degrees to Lehonti, that he died.” (Alma 47:18)

It’s interesting that often we are lulled along with little things until suddenly we realize we have become desensitized to the big picture.
Just look at what is acceptable on TV now, and what was acceptable on TV forty years ago.
Times have changed a little – but it didn’t happen overnight.

? What’s your favorite show on TV right now?


7 07 2010

Leah told me last night that we are now at 59 days till we get married. I guess that means today we are at 58.

I politely reminded her that I’d rather not be reminded of the number of days till we get married until we are in the single digits.

To me, 58, 78, 49, 84, 92 – they are all the same.
They all feel like FOREVER.

I prefer the single digit countdown. It feels more doable.

58 days till we get married.
I’m just not going to think about that.

Too bad it’s hard not to.

I feel like a kid looking forward to:
The weekend
The end of the school day. (It might as well be 2:50 and I’m just staring at the second hand slowly trace circles that seem to have no affect on the minute hand)

Somehow you just have to distract yourself and stay busy so that time seems to go by faster.

“…all is as one day with God, and time only is measured unto men.” (Alma 40:8)

Ugh. Time.
I need to stop measuring time.

? What do you do to help time “move faster” as you look forward to something?

gentle rebuke.

30 06 2010

“Reproving betimes with sharpness, when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing forth afterwards an increase of love toward him whom thou hast reproved…” (D&C 121:43)

Yep – I’ve been reproved.

I got back this morning and Grandpa inquired when my last visit to the temple was…

This is sad – because off the top of my head, I actually cannot remember the last time I went.

That can’t be good. It’s actually quite bad.

I was reminded this morning that if there is enough time to go to the driving range multiple times a week then there is surely enough time to go to the temple.

I stand corrected and I am grateful for the reminder. (Mom actually made me promise several weeks ago that I would start going once a week- sorry Mom)

I am so happy with how this scripture blog is going and the daily effect it has had on my own personal testimony – but it is interesting that complacency has still managed to creep into my life.

It is a daily struggle – no matter how good you feel about where you’re headed it is important to realize that there are no breaks in the race.
There is no room for complacency and the only way to avoid that is to be CONSTANTLY on guard.

I’m glad grandpa said something.
I needed to hear it.

As a whole, we all have good intentions BUT;
the road to hell is paved with good intentions, right? Yeah.

Sometimes we need someone on the road to tell us to straighten up and keep moving forward.

The key is to make sure we listen to those individuals Heavenly Father sends our way – and to not be afraid to be that person for someone else.

? How do you overcome complacency?

balancing act.

4 06 2010

How much time do you get to spend with your spouse/significant other?

I don’t get very much.
I’m wondering if that’s just something every couple deals with or if we are some kind of anomaly?

I imagine most couples struggle to figure out how to match their schedules up so they can spend time together.

Is there ever a time where you just have to say, enough is enough, I need to cut some stuff out of my life so that i can spend more time with the person I love?

My schedule is bizarre and Leah’s schedule isn’t much better. The only time we seem to be able to match things up is between 10 pm and midnight or on Sunday.
It sucks.

And it’s starting to take a toll on the relationship.
I just feel like we don’t get to talk as much as we used to and despite living 5 miles apart we don’t see each other very often either.

I’ve always been taught that the phrase “I don’t have enough time” is an excuse (and not a very good one).
If it is a priority then you will MAKE the time, right?

I love her more than anything.

But it’s that love that pushes me to take on extra work so that I can be as prepared as possible for marriage (financially speaking).

How do you balance that?

It seems like this is one of those; good, better, best situations, right?

“…and behold, there is one thing which is of more importance than they all…” (Alma 7:7)

The scripture is talking about the coming of the Savior – but there are some things in life more important than others.

I imagine it is a case of each couple doing what is best for them – and Leah and I will have to figure something out for ourselves.

BUT – I’m definitely interested in hearing how you find the time in your busy schedules to spend quality time with your loved one.

?How do you balance work, church, life and spending time with your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend?

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