the bridge.

14 11 2010

Think about some of the things adults told you as a kid to keep you from following the crowd.

It seems that adults are intent on keeping youth from caving in to peer pressure.

I remember teachers, youth leaders, parents saying, “If all your friends jumped off a bridge, would you?

That was the cliched saying that was meant to keep kids from following their friends into temptation…

“and they were in the attitude of mocking and pointing their fingers towards those who had come at and were partaking of the fruit.” (1 Nephi 8:27)

Most of our childhood is spent with adults telling us to avoid peer pressure and not to worry about the people pointing fingers at you because you’re different.

Then one day, everything changes….

Suddenly everyone wants you to conform.

Go to college.
Do an internship.
Get married.
Have kids.
Buy a house.
Retire.

Now if you don’t follow the crowd you’re the one looked down on.
Now you’re supposed to worry about the pointing fingers.

What changes between childhood and adulthood?

Responsibility?

Yeah, that’s gotta be it…

Well, I don’t believe anything has to change.

And neither does this Chris Guillebeau, author of “The Art of Non-Conformity” blog.

When I lived with the crew in the Slate house we always talked about how we we didn’t want a traditional life.

None of us wanted to be part of just another suburban family driving a mini-van around with our 4 kids and dog.

*Not that there is anything wrong with that. We just didn’t feel like it was for us.

But that is very frowned upon in our culture – you are expected to do all of those things.

But just because it’s expected doesn’t mean you have to…

? Have you ever wanted something more than a normal life?





baby girl.

5 07 2010

My sister, Kailynn, is having a baby GIRL!

A baby.

Whoa.
That’s the big time.

I’m finally at the point in my life (maturity?) where I feel like I can be married.
I’m 26, graduated from college with a potential career job on the horizon.

But, a baby?
Nope!

Not even close to believing I can take care of a baby right now. (At least one of my own)

Uncle Kyle?
Yeah I can definitely do that.

I get to be the one who plays with the baby and has no responsibility. I can buy her things, I can tell her she’s allowed to be a little disobedient to her parents, (just kidding Kailynn & Dallas), and I can be the cool one she goes to talk to about stuff!

All the fun and no responsibility.

Kailynn and Dallas get to do the discipline!
“Train up a child in the way he should go…” (Proverbs 22:6)

At first I was a little disappointed it was a girl and not a boy (only because I wanted a boy to teach the ways of the bboy)

Selfish desire? Maybe.

Ok, but now I’m stoked it’s a girl.

Why?

I can still teach her breakdancing.
And she’ll look adorable when I get her a baby track suit and beanie!

In some countries it is highly frowned upon to have a girl.

Boys are viewed as assets.
Girls are viewed as expenses.

Of course this only really occurs in developing nations.
The boy is viewed as the inheritor – the one who will take over the family farm/business.
The girl is an expense in large part because of the dowry the family will owe someday.

The UNICEF estimate is that roughly 5,000 Indian women are killed each year in dowry disputes.
5,000?!

Luckily Kailynn and Dallas will not have to worry about a dowry someday.

Thank goodness we live in a developed nation, right?!

Congratulations Kailynn and Dallas!

Can’t wait to meet the little (future) bgirl!

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