the bottom line on happiness pt. 2

24 02 2011

Yesterday I only covered one of the items from Clayton M. Christensen’s list of ways to lead a purposeful life.

Today we get items 2-5.

2. Create a family culture.
3. Avoid “just this once”
4. Remember to be humble.
5. Choose the right yardstick.

Oooohh, we’ve got some pretty solid advice. Let’s take a quick peek at each of these.

Create a family culture.
Often when kids do things wrong parents like to use “power tools” to steer them straight. (ie. coercion, threats, punishments)
The problem comes when “power tools” no longer work, you are left with an out of control kid that you have no clue what to do with.

Everyone talks about creating the perfect corporate culture. A culture where honesty, hard work and other values are just an instinctive part of each employee.

They are only instinctive when employees know that those values are encouraged and are appropriate.

You can’t expect a teenager to suddenly want to be obedient if you have been letting them get away with things for years, or if they had to be bribed to be good.

Develop the culture and reap the rewards. (either good or bad)

Avoid “just this once”.
It is very, very easy to say, “well, this is an extenuating circumstance, so I’ll do it just this once.”

Our lives are comprised of lots and lots of extenuating circumstances. If you give in once, you will give in MUCH more than you ever expected. One day you will wake up and find you are somewhere doing things you never dreamed of.

“…and he leadeth them by the neck with a flaxen cord, until he bindeth them with his strong cords forever.” (2 Nephi 26:22)

Christensen said this, “The lesson I learned is that it’s easier to hold to your principles 100 percent of the time than it is to hold to them 98 percent of the time.

Oh so true.

Remember to be humble.
Humility is not being small. It is not putting yourself down. True humility is shining for the world to see while recognizing the journey is not complete and there is much left to improve.

Choose the right yardstick.
How are you judging your success?
Cars. Money. Homes. Fame.
With that yardstick, you will find yourself wanting in the end.

No amount of success outside the home can compensate for failure in the home.

I just feel really good today.
Have you ever had one of those days where everything just felt right?
They don’t happen often (maybe I’m missing a purpose) but when they do, I just feel at peace.

?What are some things you do to help bring purpose to your life?


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