possessions and professions.

3 04 2011

The Savior was a humble carpenter, but that hardly defined His life.” (Elder Lynn G. Robbins)

I was just flipping through my Twitter feed to see what everyone was tweeting about conference and noticed several people quoted Elder Robbins.

Often we associate professions and possessions with our personal worth.
What a tragedy.
If our bank accounts/homes and cars were the measuring stick by which we achieved value there would be entire countries that would be considered of little or no worth.

Often, those humble souls are the greatest among us.
“And there came a certain poor widow, and she threw in two mites, which make a farthing.

And he called unto him his disciples, and saith unto them, Verily I say unto you, That this poor widow hath cast more in, than all they which have cast into the treasury:

For all they did cast in of their abundance; but she of her want did cast in all that she had, even all her living.” (Mark 12:42-44)

I’m very ambitious. I want to acquire certain things and reach certain positions in my career.
Those are goals. But they mean NOTHING without the Gospel and without my family. My worth is not based on accomplishing those goals. It’s based on my success in my home and in my ability to integrate the Gospel into my life.

I was SO grateful for Elder Scott’s remarks about his wife…
I was inspired and uplifted by the love he has for his wife and the motivation she has given him to do better each day so that he can see her again.

“No amount of success outside the home can compensate for failure within the home…”

Aside from the many remarks about the welfare program, there seemed to be a lot of focus on marriage and families. General Conference always has exactly what I need…

? What did you enjoy most about General Conference this year?

a little perspective.

5 03 2011

I’ve spent most of the week thinking about the following things:
iPad2 (2011 will be another year of the tablets).
Brandon Davies scandal.
March Madness.
My exhibition battle coming up in April.
Making more money.

Everything was put into perspective today as I sat in the sealing room with a lot of my immediate and extended family as we watched my sister, Kourtney, get married.

Have you ever been so caught up in life that somehow the important things seem to just slip by unnoticed?

I like to be busy.
I like to fill my life with goals and work.

Today I had one of those little spiritual nudges that gently helped me do a quick realignment of what is most important.

I was reminded that the covenants made in the temple are more important than anything.

If I will just do the best I can to live up to the promises I have made, I will have the opportunity to be with my wife forever.

That beats golf, basketball, money an anything else I can think of.

My favorite gospel principle to teach was the eternal possibility of the family unit.

I love each of the people that were in the sealing room today (and the ones waiting for us on the outside).

It’s going to be wonderful to be able to share eternal friendships with them.
“And, if you keep my commandments and endure to the end you shall have eternal life, which gift is the greatest of all the gifts of God…” (D&C 14:7)

? How do you keep things in the right perspective?

it’s my party and i’ll cry if i want to.

4 03 2011

I’m in a beautiful house on the outskirts of Zion National Park.

My sister, Kourtney, is getting married in St. George this weekend.
Kournety manages the Zion Ponderosa Ranch – which thankfully allowed us to have access to some of the cabins here on the ranch.

Weddings are SO much more than a bride and groom getting married.

A bride and groom are basically party hosts trying to make sure their guests are happy.

You are planning the ultimate party.
Your guests are your friends, family and then those random people who seem to somehow get involved.

That is A LOT of pressure.

And the pressure gets to everyone at some point.

Oh the tears….

There are different levels of crying.
The tear up: This is usually what happens to me when I watch a touching movie.
The gentle trickle: This happens when a couple tears escape the eyes after a good tear up.
The soft sob: A steady flow of tears with some muffled sniffling.
The steady sob: Steady tears with no attempt to silence the sniffling.
The ugly cry: Gushing tears, lots of loud strange noises, a runny nose. Basically this occurs when crap hits the fan and you lose all inhibitions.

Weddings have a way of bringing out the ugly cry.

It is the most interesting dynamic.
There might be lots of varying levels of crying along the way – BUT when the day arrives, it’s as if none of that even happened and everyone laughs and has a great time.

Being out here for my sisters wedding reminds me of the emotional rollercoaster that a wedding takes you on.

You think it’s all over once you’re married.
But so far it seems like that little rollercoaster was the first of many.
And that marriage day filled with bliss and happiness is also just the first of many.

But in all the chaos of preparing and enjoying a wedding, it’s great to remember the real reason for all of the stress…

“And in order to obtain the highest, a man must enter into this border of the priesthood meaning the new and everlasting covenant of marriage.” (D&C 131:2)

? Was your wedding planning stressful or easy?


10 12 2010

Jake is next in line to join the family.

He proposed and Kourtney accepted and they’ll be married in St. George next March.

I have spent a little bit of time with him – not as much as we got with Dallas – but I’ll take what I can get get.

Kourtney used to date a guy named Jarrett.
I loved him. He was pretty much perfect and we all thought he was going to join the family someday.

But then he went on a mission, she moved to the ranch and then started dating Josh.

Never a big fan of Josh. (I didn’t really hide it well either)
He was a cool person, but it never seemed to click right between all of us.

Now she’s on her 3rd guy with “J” name.
I never thought I’d like anybody as much as Jarrett – but I was wrong.

Jake, you’re the man.
I’m excited for you to join the family – you fit perfectly and it’s going to be great having you around at family stuff from now on.

Welcome to the tribe…
“they were divided into tribes, every man according to his family…” (3 Nephi 7:14)

? Have you ever not liked somebody that a close friend or family member was going to marry?

master chef.

6 10 2010

Leah got me hooked on another show…
Yes, I know – I already have too many. But this one’s really good! (just like all my others)

Master Chef!

It’s one of those reality TV show competitions. (yeah, I know, very played out at this point in time)
But it has a new feel to it. Amateur chefs from across the country all competing for the title of: Master Chef!

I hate to admit this, but Leah and I probably watched close to 6 episodes last weekend.

Well, I was thinking about the show and thinking about my wonderful wife – because tonight we had pulled pork sandwiches, potato wedges and corn on the cob!

Leah is pretty fresh to the whole cooking thing. she lived in the newsroom for the past 2 years, so cooking consisted of popping a Lean Cuisine in the microwave.

She’s decided to try and develop cooking as a skill and I totally support it (why wouldn’t I, right?)

I thoroughly enjoyed tonights dinner and I felt the need gush about it on my blog.
I’m really liking this whole married thing!

“…will take your daughters to be confectionaries and to be cooks and to be bakers.” (1 Samuel 8:13)
*yeah the scripture is a bit of a stretch- but I’m tired and I don’t feel like looking through a ton more!

? What’s your favorite thing to cook?

marriage prep.

23 09 2010

I took my singles ward dating/marriage prep class 5 times.
4 of those were with the same teacher. (Sherri, bless your heart – I bet you never thought I’d get married)

Do I feel like taking a marriage class is the best preparation for being married?
No. (Although I really, really enjoyed Sherri’s classes)

The best preparation for marriage?
My mission.

Here are 5 things I learned on my mission that will pay off huge in my marriage (I hope):

5. Study your scriptures with your companion.
Every day you wake up and study the scriptures with your companion. Leah and I have been studying at night – but it’s been wonderful to spend a few minutes reading a chapter in the Book of Mormon. My companion and I were most successful when teaching the gospel when we built a solid foundation in the morning. Elder Holland said that the 2 hour block spent in study would make or break our mission experience. There is something really special about laying that foundation in my marriage so that hopefully someday when we are asked to teach (our future kids) we will be ready.

“But, behold, I say unto you, that you must study it out in your mind…” (D&C 9:8)

4. Keep clear channels of communication with your companion.
Once a week you clear the air.
Do you have a problem?
Do I have a problem?
Let’s throw it on the table, discuss it and be done with it. I think it’s easier with guys to do this. We are typically very willing to articulate what you did wrong and why we don’t like it. If not with our mouths, then with our fists. Hopefully Leah and I can learn to keep open channels of communication so neither of us ever reach a breaking point where things get crazy!

3. Eat what’s on the table.
I have eaten cereal with spiders in it.
I have eaten curry with cat hair in it.
I have a sandwich with dog drool soaking the bread.
I have even eaten a stew filled with the sweat of the poor sister who spent too much time leaning over the pot.
Leah, you can cook anything and I will eat it.

2. Don’t let the word ‘no’ upset you.
After talking with thousands of people who wanted nothing to do with me, the word ‘no’ doesn’t seem so bad anymore. I don’t take it personally, I don’t feel like crying, or pouting, or arguing. As much as I would LOVE to hang up these breakdance posters I have collected over the years from competitions I’ve done, I can accept that at this current time, they will not be lining our walls. I have also learned to accept that I am not allowed to call a bag of SunChips a legitimate meal.

1. End each day with a prayer that includes gratitude.
Fact, bad days happen on the mission. You and your companion disagree, an investigator sends you off, you get beat up, you get your bike stolen, you don’t mail, you get a dear john etc. etc. But when you get down on your knees at night to pray and thank Heavenly Father for your blessings – well it can make even the worst day seem ok. Real life is no different than the mission, there are good and bad days. But even the bad days can be made ok when you end the day with a prayer that includes some gratitude for blessings.

Thank-you 2003-2005 England Birmingham Mission for teaching me some things that will hopefully help me be a better husband…

? What are some things you learned or wish you learned that could benefit your marriage?


21 09 2010

I just got out of the shower.
Not something I typically do at 11:00 PM.

I taught class over at Center Stage and then went and practiced with the BYU breakdance club and then went home.

There are 2 ways this scenario could play out:

Single Kyle:
Goes home. Stops @ Del Taco on the way to buy 6 soft tacos. (They’re only $.39 each!) After getting home he eats food while watching a TV show. (any show will do) Then he drinks a TON of juice. (not a big water guy) Finally he brushes his teeth says a prayer and calls it a night. (If he’s really tired he just sleeps in his clothes)

Married Kyle:
Drives straight home to see wife. Prays food will be available upon arrival. (Leah is amazing, there was a pizza waiting in the oven for me) Eats quickly. Then hits the shower. Puts on clean clothes. Brushes teeth. Reads scriptures with wife. Says a prayer and then calls it a night.

I don’t feel like there have been any really big changes since being married. It seems like being married is just a lot of little things that you do a little differently than before – typically for the better (I think). Although I don’t think anyone will argue that I am worse off for taking a shower after 4 hours of dancing.

“But if he wash them not, nor bathe his flesh; then he shall bear his iniquity.” (Leviticus 17:16)

? What are some small changes you have made since being married?

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