Dance for the Needy.

8 10 2010

This past summer one of my best friends, Brandon Krogel, went out to South Africa for the World Cup and an internship.

When I met up with him for lunch after he first got back, one of the very first things he told me was that he was going to throw a charity event.

On Friday night “Dance for the Needy” was held in an underground parking garage in Orem. It was a bboy battle/hip-hop dance. All of the proceeds would be donated to the orphanage Brandon worked at.

The event was a success and Brandon made over $300 – which considering that the event was held in a ridiculously difficult location to find is quite impressive.

More impressive were the bboys…
Several of the bboys paid the entrance fee and then a little extra because they knew it was for a good cause.

The guy who won the $50 prize gave the money back to Brandon for the charity.

I was touched as I thought about these guys who might not look like the “standard” LDS guy – but who have charity and compassion in abundance.

It made me think of an experience I had at BYU several years ago.

I was President of the Breakdance Club for a little while and I wanted to throw a competition. The year before, our club had done a competition on campus that was incredibly successful. We had an amazing turnout and generated more revenue than most of the other clubs ever had.

But the BYUSA supervisor was not exactly thrilled about the idea of another competition. He said he was disappointed to see individuals with tattoos, piercings and crazy hair at the prior event. He said it was not representative of what BYU stood for. I tried to explain the missionary opportunities and that there would be NO violence, drinking, smoking or anything even close and his response was:

“What would some of our alumni think if they saw people like that on our campus?”

I mentioned that we have a variety of athletes with tattoos who don’t look like a “BYU student” should look and he said that because they generate so much revenue for the school that it is a different situation…

I left that meeting incredibly frustrated and disappointed that we were willing to send missionaries all over the world to preach the gospel, but unwilling to extend our arms to those people in our own community, simply because of their appearance.

“Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.” (John 7:24)

? Have you ever looked at someone and thought they were “something” only to find out they were completely different?


26 08 2010

We have a new(esque) girl working at the store now.
She’s a recent high school graduate just starting her first year at UVU.

A couple nights ago, we got talking about the “type” of people we were.

Have you ever talked with someone who tried to categorize you?
I’ve stood on both sides of conversation.
I’ve categorized and been categorized.

It all begins with appearance.
Hipsters. Goths. Emo’s. Jocks. “Easy” girls. Academics. Outcasts. Bboys.

They all have a look that is pretty recognizable.

But does the look truly represent the person?

and no.

“…but the judgments of man are not always just.” (Mosiah 29:12)

I was talking with our new girl and asked her how she categorized herself.
She responded by asking me if she had to fit into just one category?

Great question – and the answer is no. There are definitely the extremes out there who are almost exactly the type of person their image stands for – but I feel like there are alot of HYBRIDS in this world.

You are most likely a hybrid.
I’m a hybrid.

By hybrid, I mean a mutt-like collection of various interests and influences.
This particular girl is her own hybrid version of emo, goth, indie and harijuku.

I’m a mix of business, bboy and Justin Timberlake! (well, at least this is what I like to think)

However, the interesting thing about categories is that the ones you put yourself in are not necessarily the ones that others put you in.

The categories are always changing. The next time you try to categorize someone you should probably stop and find out a little bit about them before throwing them into a very generalized category!

? What are you a hybrid of?

online hatin’.

19 08 2010

My Dr. Pepper contest entry is top 4!

I’ve put other clips of me dancing on YouTube – much better clips of me. Those videos have like 100 views.

My Dr. Pepper video is just over 100,000 with like 150 comments.

Obviously I’ve kept a close eye on the things being said about my video.

It’s not pretty.
I’ve heard celebrities talk about how they try to avoid listening to what the tabloids say – and now I understand why. (Not that I am even remotely close to being a celebrity of any kind)

But when you read the good comments you begin to think, yeah I must be pretty good. And when you read the bad comments (which by the way, there are ALOT) you begin to feel like you possess no talent at all.

It’s a very interesting dynamic (love/hate).

Someone posted on my buddy’s YouTube channel that we need to forget dancing and go to school and get degrees!

Here’s the problem with this whole online world of commenting. The comments are based solely on what you SEE in a short clip.

By the way @todoutah I have a degree and a job, thank you very much!

Here is a short letter to everyone hatin’ on the video…

Dear haters,

Thanks for watching the video (even though you didn’t like it). And thanks or taking the time to jot down your opinion about the video (even though it was negative). I’d like to clear the air about a couple of things;

First: Yes, I am not a professional bboy. This means that dancing has taken a backseat to my FULL TIME job and my future wife, and my church, and golf (which I’ve recently become very into).

Second: Yes, there are plenty of other bboys out there who can smoke me. (I’ve accepted it and have moved on) Bboy Keebz would dominate me, I know. But thanks for pointing out the VERY obvious.

Third: I did one big move in the video, BUT that does not mean it’s the only move I know. (Watch another video)

Fourth: The entry was last minute and was prompted by a friend, so I have not been holding my breath as I seek approval from all of you (even though your approval would be awesome, thanks! hahaha)

Umm, yeah that’s it. I wanted to just throw all of this out there. It made me feel better. Thanks!


bboy justified.

I think I’m going to take to heart more seriously the counsel given in the movie Bambi – if you don’ have anything nice to say then don’t say anything at all…

“For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.” (Matthew 7:2)

? What do you do if you don’t have something nice to say to someone?


28 04 2010

Remember Mariah?

She was the one with the helpful suggestions about my appearance and grooming.

Well — she got to me.

Here’s the short hair:

Before you bite my head off about changing myself because of the opinions of some people I just met, let me explain my reasoning.

I told the story to my mom — and I have to admit, each time I retell this story I probably get a little more carried away with how crazy it was : )

My mom pointed out something I didn’t see when I was in Portland. Mariah was not saying anything bad about me. In fact we got along quite well because we share VERY similar literary interests (The Tipping Point, Think and Grow Rich, Blink, Outliers, etc. etc.).

All I heard was: Kyle you need to change, change, change because you’re not good enough.

I should have heard: Kyle you need to change your outward appearance to match your personality.

It was a compliment.

Thank-you Mariah.

My mission president told me when I left that I should always look like a missionary.

President Munday would be glad to hear that 5 years and countless crazy hairstyles later I finally understand the necessity of a clean cut exterior.

If I had showed up with an exterior that resembled the interior — maybe my trip to meet the family would have gone better.

It doesn’t matter how much we say that it is what is inside that counts —

“…and he shall not judge after the sight of his eyes…” (Isaiah 11:3)

EVERYONE makes some sort of judgement based on appearance:

Exhibit A:

Think of the first word that comes to mind when you see these pictures —

All 3 are JT (my not-so secret-completely hetereosexual-man crush) BUT — which JT do you bring home to Mom & Dad?

There is no way you described all 3 JT’s with the same words. EVERYONE makes snap judgements in the blink of an eye.

Still don’t believe me? Go read Blink by Malcolm Gladwell. Now.

?  Have you been judged based on your appearance? How did it go?

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