possessions and professions.

3 04 2011

The Savior was a humble carpenter, but that hardly defined His life.” (Elder Lynn G. Robbins)

I was just flipping through my Twitter feed to see what everyone was tweeting about conference and noticed several people quoted Elder Robbins.

Often we associate professions and possessions with our personal worth.
What a tragedy.
If our bank accounts/homes and cars were the measuring stick by which we achieved value there would be entire countries that would be considered of little or no worth.

Often, those humble souls are the greatest among us.
“And there came a certain poor widow, and she threw in two mites, which make a farthing.

And he called unto him his disciples, and saith unto them, Verily I say unto you, That this poor widow hath cast more in, than all they which have cast into the treasury:

For all they did cast in of their abundance; but she of her want did cast in all that she had, even all her living.” (Mark 12:42-44)

I’m very ambitious. I want to acquire certain things and reach certain positions in my career.
Those are goals. But they mean NOTHING without the Gospel and without my family. My worth is not based on accomplishing those goals. It’s based on my success in my home and in my ability to integrate the Gospel into my life.

I was SO grateful for Elder Scott’s remarks about his wife…
I was inspired and uplifted by the love he has for his wife and the motivation she has given him to do better each day so that he can see her again.

“No amount of success outside the home can compensate for failure within the home…”

Aside from the many remarks about the welfare program, there seemed to be a lot of focus on marriage and families. General Conference always has exactly what I need…

? What did you enjoy most about General Conference this year?


25 03 2011

TGIF on ABC was life changing as a kid.

Full House.
Family Matters.
Boy Meets World.
Step By Step.

That 2 hour block of programming was classic.

Name a show today that is done in the same style as one of these shows. The lessons we were meant to garner from them was presented so boldly it was impossible to miss.
Don’t drink.
Don’t do drugs.
Don’t steal.
Be kind.
Family is first.

“We believe in being honest, true, chaste, benevolent, virtuous, and in doing good to all men; indeed, we may say that we follow the admonition of Paul—We believe all things, we hope all things, we have endured many things, and hope to be able to endure all things. If there is anything virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praiseworthy, we seek after these things.” (Article of Faith 13)

Where can I watch a show that shares those exact same lessons?
I’m not sure there is one.
But if you think of one I’d love to hear it.

So for now, as I sit here reminiscing about TGIF, I’ll turn to another show filled with different types of life lessons.

Not quite the lessons I learned from TGIF -but you can’t go wrong with: “never, ever, ever give up.” Thanks Michael.

? What was your favorite TGIF show?

the bottom line on happiness pt. 2

24 02 2011

Yesterday I only covered one of the items from Clayton M. Christensen’s list of ways to lead a purposeful life.

Today we get items 2-5.

2. Create a family culture.
3. Avoid “just this once”
4. Remember to be humble.
5. Choose the right yardstick.

Oooohh, we’ve got some pretty solid advice. Let’s take a quick peek at each of these.

Create a family culture.
Often when kids do things wrong parents like to use “power tools” to steer them straight. (ie. coercion, threats, punishments)
The problem comes when “power tools” no longer work, you are left with an out of control kid that you have no clue what to do with.

Everyone talks about creating the perfect corporate culture. A culture where honesty, hard work and other values are just an instinctive part of each employee.

They are only instinctive when employees know that those values are encouraged and are appropriate.

You can’t expect a teenager to suddenly want to be obedient if you have been letting them get away with things for years, or if they had to be bribed to be good.

Develop the culture and reap the rewards. (either good or bad)

Avoid “just this once”.
It is very, very easy to say, “well, this is an extenuating circumstance, so I’ll do it just this once.”

Our lives are comprised of lots and lots of extenuating circumstances. If you give in once, you will give in MUCH more than you ever expected. One day you will wake up and find you are somewhere doing things you never dreamed of.

“…and he leadeth them by the neck with a flaxen cord, until he bindeth them with his strong cords forever.” (2 Nephi 26:22)

Christensen said this, “The lesson I learned is that it’s easier to hold to your principles 100 percent of the time than it is to hold to them 98 percent of the time.

Oh so true.

Remember to be humble.
Humility is not being small. It is not putting yourself down. True humility is shining for the world to see while recognizing the journey is not complete and there is much left to improve.

Choose the right yardstick.
How are you judging your success?
Cars. Money. Homes. Fame.
With that yardstick, you will find yourself wanting in the end.

No amount of success outside the home can compensate for failure in the home.

I just feel really good today.
Have you ever had one of those days where everything just felt right?
They don’t happen often (maybe I’m missing a purpose) but when they do, I just feel at peace.

?What are some things you do to help bring purpose to your life?

strangers are family too.

22 02 2011

I began reading the five people you meet in heaven tonight. Mitch Albom is a fantastic author. Tuesday’s with Morrie was filled with a wide range of great life advice and this book has already provided some wonderful insights.

The book details the journey of Eddie after he dies. The first person he meets is someone he could barely call an acquaintance while in life.

This line struck me…
“Strangers are just family you have yet to come to know.”

Have you ever met someone and just felt you knew them from some previous life?
You probably did.
We are all family.

“And I, the Lord God, had created all the children of men; and not yet a man to till the ground; for in heaven created I them…” (Moses 3:5)

It’s one of the most basic doctrines we are taught in the Church – but how often do you think about it as you are going about your day?
That doesn’t happen very often in my daily life.

Reading that quote tonight was a great reminder of how connected we all really are. Hopefully I can remember that the next time somebody cuts me off while driving!

? Have you read the five people you meet in heaven?

say yes to the dress.

11 12 2010

Say Yes to the Dress is a popular bridal show on TLC (don’t ask me how I know that) about the intensity of selecting a wedding dress!

Luckily there was no intensity involved in our dress shopping for Kourtney’s dress today.

We went to about four different places and tried on about a dozen or so dresses. I filmed each one an sent the video clip to Mom so she could see (gotta love the iPhone).

Kourtney is a small girl, so a few of these dresses almost completely enveloped her and made her look like a snowman!

I’m not sure anything was officially decided on, but I think we narrowed the number down to a few. Once we’ve got a winner, I’ll post a pic!

It was great to spend some more time with Jake (the fiance) as well.
It’s hard to believe that everyone has grown up so much.

“the younger as sisters, with all purity….” (1 Timothy 5:2)

Sometimes I think it would be great if we could just all live together or near each other again.

? Do you want to live near family, or away from family?


10 12 2010

Jake is next in line to join the family.

He proposed and Kourtney accepted and they’ll be married in St. George next March.

I have spent a little bit of time with him – not as much as we got with Dallas – but I’ll take what I can get get.

Kourtney used to date a guy named Jarrett.
I loved him. He was pretty much perfect and we all thought he was going to join the family someday.

But then he went on a mission, she moved to the ranch and then started dating Josh.

Never a big fan of Josh. (I didn’t really hide it well either)
He was a cool person, but it never seemed to click right between all of us.

Now she’s on her 3rd guy with “J” name.
I never thought I’d like anybody as much as Jarrett – but I was wrong.

Jake, you’re the man.
I’m excited for you to join the family – you fit perfectly and it’s going to be great having you around at family stuff from now on.

Welcome to the tribe…
“they were divided into tribes, every man according to his family…” (3 Nephi 7:14)

? Have you ever not liked somebody that a close friend or family member was going to marry?


13 11 2010

I watched the movie Grown-Ups last night.
(Leah had a girls night which means I got to watch a dumb comedy with Adam Sandler and his friends)

Overall, the move should’ve been better. They’ve got a lot of big name comedians so it could’ve been a lot funnier. But I still enjoyed it. (That’s not saying much though, I enjoy practically every movie I watch)

Grown-Ups is about a group of really close friends who grow up and go live separate lives and are brought back together to attend the funeral for their mentor.

Despite years of being apart pursuing very different lives, nothing changed.
When they were brought back together it was as if they were still 14.

Tonight I battled with the crew at the Federation Battle in SLC.
I thought about how we have all had periods of time where we have been away from each other – yet when we get back together, nothing has changed.

They’re family in every way but blood.

I thought about the movie as I drove home tonight.
We’re that group.
We are all pursuing different things in life and some of us live in different states and even countries – but one thing will never change.
The close friendship we share.

“Alma did rejoice exceedingly to see his brethren; and what added more to his joy, they were still his brethren in the Lord…” (Alma 17:2)

Twenty years from now I hope to be able to have the same experience as Alma.

? Have you guys seen Grown-Ups?

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