seventeen again.

1 04 2011

No post yesterday. Sad day. The internet at our apartment died…. But don’t worry, today we’re back!

I subbed a dance class last night for Kandice Smith (I love subbing). I usually get to know the kids while we’re stretching. I ask the standard getting to know you questions; Name? Fav. dance style? Grade in school? Other interests besides dance? Age?

Age is always been a fun one. I have never looked my age. In high school it sucked. But now I’m beginning to appreciate it.

The kids asked how old I was and I told them to guess. They whispered back and forth and decided 17!
17! Hahahaha! I’ll take it! I don’t look 17, but those little 8 year-old girls made my day! I spent the drive home thinking about being 17 year old me. I’ve seen lots of people write letters to their future selves.
Dear 30 year old me“.

Have you ever wondered what you would say to yourself if you could go back and talk to “young” you?

Here’s what I would say to 17 year old me…

(my friend Clara and I when I was in high school)


Hey – it’s me, 27 year old you. You’re stubborn and seem to only learn things the hard way. Pay attention and I’ll save you some troubles along the way. I’ve also got some things you need to do to make life easier on me/you.

You’re about to move (surprise! You’ll find out in a couple months). Embrace it. You will only get your Senior year of high school in Singapore but don’t waste your time moping for the first few months. (you’ll regret it, I promise) Go somewhere warm for interim semester. Soak in as much warmth as possible! ( I regret to inform you it looks like you end up living somewhere with lots of snow) You’re going to start breakdancing about now – please, please, practice POWER moves now. They get much harder to learn later and it’s really starting to hurt.

Don’t date Allison long distance when you go to BYU! You will love Allison a TON but for both of you it is just best that it ends when you leave. (she becomes a measuring stick for future girls, enjoy dating her)

Your mission is AWESOME! It will be the hardest yet MOST rewarding thing you will ever accomplish. (well, for a little while at least)

When you get home from your mission life changes completely. Luckily you still have Brandon and Paul. They’re good friends, keep them around. I really need you to do well in school. Applying for grad schools has been a real pain because we didn’t exactly care about grades. Just try to do A’s and B’s.

You’re going to want to start gambling. Don’t! It’s not worth it. (but if you do decide to play just one game, put EVERYTHING on BYU to make the sweet 16 in 2011 – we’ll be rich!) Just kidding, gambling is bad.

You get married to a beautiful, successful, talented woman who is your best friend. Please don’t party too hard – you’ll wish you hadn’t.

Grandpa is going to pass away during one of the most depressing and difficult times of your life. Talk with him now. Send cards to loved ones. Stay in touch with as many friends as you can. Relationships are a top priority. Family is important! (you might end up moving back home with them some day, but don’t worry, it’s for the best)

You’re gonna have good/bad/fun/sad/rewarding/trying times to face during the next ten years. The MOST important thing to remember is to keep the Gospel close to you. I am positive you will avoid a lot of heartache if you’ll just do this one thing. I know you don’t like some of the rules and they’re hard to obey. You have to try and be more obedient. It’s taken me 10 years to understand that blessings are truly predicated upon obedience.
“And when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by obedience to that law upon which it is predicated.” (D&C 130:21)

Good luck, you’ll be fine! Just smile and enjoy the ride….


? What would you tell yourself if you could offer advice to “young you”?

top of the class.

29 07 2010

I recently completed a research paper (no, I’m not in school – don’t ask) about the pitfalls of “gifted testing” at a young age (Kindergarten).

I got the idea for the paper from a book I read, Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell.

Gladwell discuses a principle called the “Matthew Effect“.

“For unto every one that hath shall be given, and he shall have abundance: but from him that hath not shall be taken away even that which he hath.” (Matthew 25:29)

Basically, those who have – get more.
Those who have not – lose more.

The basic premise runs like this; a child who has a head start at the beginning receives a practically continuous stream of help throughout his/her life that helps keep them ahead of their peers.

A child who is tested and found to be “gifted” at a young age receives special help so that they can progress faster. The same goes with the child who is bigger or faster. They are given special treatment by the coaches.

Well – the problem stems from the fact that gifted testing at such a young age does not actually find gifted students.
It finds students who are more mature or physically bigger than their peers.

The maturity and size come from age.

The birthday cutoff for some schools is September.

If a student is born August 27 they will be one of the youngest in their class.
If a student is born September 5, they will be near the older side of the spectrum.

At 5-6 years old that extra 10-12 months of growth and maturity can make a HUGE difference when it comes time to be tested for aptitude.

* Note – these are not cold hard facts. Rather they are broad research based conclusions. It does not mean that every single child born in September is better off than those born in August – but there is definitely a correlation between age and academic/athletic success.

So the dilemma is: When should you put your child in school?

Well, according to Gladwell, if you’d like to stack the odds in your child’s favor you should be leaning towards delivering your baby during the early fall. And if you should happen to have a summer baby, well, there’s no harm in waiting in extra year, right?

? Do you think there is a correlation between age and academic/athletic success?

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